How She Does It...

I don't know if I've mentioned this before, but,well,  Hollywood made a picture about my life. I was lucky enough to have the lovely Sarah Jessica Parker (or as her besties like to call her, SJP) play me.

I think she did a pretty good job.
 

All joking aside, I did see this and enjoyed every minute of it. So much so that it inspired this blog post. And while the film didn't cause me to think or evaluate life as the Matrix, Inception or even for one adorable 6 year old I know, Star Wars might... it did make think about MY life and well, how I "do it". (Not like that... don't be dirty...this is a family blog)

SJP is a full-time working mom of 2 adorable kiddos. Doting husband. Semi-reliable nanny. Killer wardrobe, awesome body, and well she gets to work with Pierce Bronson so life can't be that bad.

But she also suffers from what I imagine most moms (working or not) do.... getting it "all" done. She refers to "the list" quite a lot. You all know what I'm talking about... the running list of things that you need to do, order, make, purchase, return, create, wrap, give, eat, wear or throw away.

All women have this list.

Men do not.

Things currently on my list:
1. Finish Cason’s Baby Book, start on his 2nd year book
2. Finish Lucas’ "Year as a big brother book"
3. Make sure I really finished Lucas’ baby book
4. Finish Lucas’ 4th and 5th year books
5. Decide how long I am going to make books
6. Work on my Scentsy business … a whole other list in itself
7. Work on Junior Service League projects (new member)
8. Finish decorating downstairs
9. Re-do bedroom
10. Re-do kids rooms
11. Haircut/color
12. Go through closets/attic
13. Valentines party for school
14. Prepare for baseball season starting
15. Frame pictures
16. Print pictures
17. Replace carpet
18. Clean out deep freeze

Oh my gosh my blood pressure just went up writing that because I just added things not previously on the list. You will also notice this is a "personal/home life" list... don't even get me started on work. There are also things not on the list… like everyday things – laundry, homework, lunches, meetings, practices, etc. etc. etc…

Heath's list:
1. Do whatever it takes to not make Monica freak out about something.

I never rarely frequently often sometimes have moments ... you know those "holy *&%@ how is it going to get done, what did I forget to do, where can I just buy it" moments. And I survive. Like once when I discovered our Monday schedule was all screwed up... it was 5:27pm... have to be at daycare by 5:30pm or we get "fined".

I had a moment. But I figured it out. And we survived.

I may have yelled at Heath a little. Sorry, babe.

The point of this blog is that we ALL do it. And we do it however it works for us. And I am so proud of what I accomplish every.single.day.

I have a job that I mostly always love. A boss that is flexible and understanding and values the work-life balance thing. Kick ass friends. Wonderful inlaws and family. And most of all, a loving husband that puts up with "my lists", crazy ideas/requests/rants, and just loves me.

So how do I do it?
1. Pray. A lot.
2. Have a wonderful husband that wants to be involved.
3. Make lists. A lot.
4. Create routine.
5. Family!!
6. Ask for help - even if I don't want to.
7. Give myself a break (not often...but sometimes).

And I think one of the best things about all of this chaos is that I WANT to do it.

It's understanding your limits. It's accepting what you just aren't able to do. It's realizing that not doing it all does not make you a failure. Baby books or no baby books, they will survive. And won't be disappointed the rest of their lives. I don't have a baby book and I'm fine. (Now, I do have access to every piece of homework, article of clothing, school project, dance costume, and video ever made of my brother and me... thanks granny!)

This week I am saluting my mom friends... I am going to tell them how wonderful they really are. I am so thrilled to be in this mom business with them...they inspire me always with how they get it all done!